The word marriage has many connotations in this society. For some it is a union between two people, and for some it is the merging of two or more entities. While I do not profess to be the authority on marriage, having been married I do have some thoughts on the subject.
My belief, when it comes to marriage, is that it is most successful when individuals have done the work to: A) Get to know Self, B) Choose to love Self, and C) Become whole. It is this process that allows people to come together being fully aware of who we are, what works for us, and what we choose. Having this knowledge, makes for a mutually expansive connection that evolves into a life experience that helps to move each individual closer to the fulfillment of destiny.
Additionally, one of the primary aspects of marriage is the romantic connection. In this society, we tend to impose our societal conditioning on our marriages/romantic connections; this can dampen, and even kill any chance of free romantic expression and evolution. This is why I believe that it is important that people define what works and does not work for the individual/specific connection, devoid of societal conditioning and imposition…of course after having done the work previously mentioned.
Last, but not least, frequent, honest and effective communication is paramount to ensure the success of any marriage. Without this, the connection is doomed to fail. Because we are all unique individuals, we must teach each other which style(s) of communication are most conducive to ensuring that the messages we choose to convey are the same messages that are received.
It is my belief that these are the primary tenets of a successful marriage, which can also apply to any connection where the goal is to go deeper. And so it is…